My husband and I tried to have a baby for over six years. We then chose to adopt our beautiful daughter and two months later we were shocked to find out I was pregnant! We were then blessed with our wonderful son! Two children, just over a year apart in age! You just never know what life will bring you!
You'd be surprised how common it is. Good luck and stay positive!
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Elizabeth - There is always a way! I went through menopause at the age of 30 and I tried to have a baby when i was 35. With shots and a great Dr. (Women's Health Care Waukesh! Wi) I got pregnant. I was able to produce two eggs and gave birth to abeautiful girl Erin on March 17, 1995. Prays to both of you!
Elizabeth Emotional Comments
I really am pulling for you to have a baby. it will happen. :)
Stay Positive & Good Luck!
I can totally relate to this. My husband and I tried for six years. I wanted nothing more than to be a mom. We told certain family members of our struggle only after we had a miscarriage. It was very difficult watching friends and family having babies during those years. It was very stressful with all the hormones I was on and all the money we were spending and not seeing any results. I could not believe that this was happening to us. However, after many fertility treatments and seeing an out of state specialist, we were blessed with twins! I wish you and your husband nothing but good luck. Prayers sent your way.
Pulling for you!
You can't give up! I tried for a year and a half for my second child, and had three miscarriages. I went through every test imaginable and spent a lot of time in clinics, and now we're 25 weeks pregnant with our son! I was just about to give up...just proves that time will tell.
You are not crazy!
I appreciate your comment of feeling like less of a women. This journey will be incredibly difficult and most around you will not understand it. We lost 6 babies two of those were tubals. My biggest advise to you is try not to get bitter. It was so hard watching everyone have babies, complain about their babies, wish they were you with no babies and so forth. We adopted three children (not all at the same time). Just know that because that is what you want (to have a child) in the end it will happen when it is suppose to. Keep a journals or make a scrapbook because in the end when you are holding that baby you will (believe it or not) not remember all this turmoil. Good luck.
Thank you for talking about this and your struggle! So many of us don't feel unable to discuss the topic of infertility. My husband and I tried for 6 years to have a baby. We suffered 2 miscarriages. When we finally figured out why I was miscarrying we got pregnant again only to give birth to a premature stillborn baby boy from a different complication. There is hope! Just over 2 weeks ago we brought home our miracle baby boy. He is perfect and 100% healthy. God has completed our miracle! Don't give up!
Let it happen when it ismeant to
Elizabeth, my heart is with you as will be my prayers. However, do not try so hard, relax and enjoy the moment and when you lease expected, you will get pregnant. Put it in God's hands and let it be His gift as every child is! Only then will you will be able to conceive. I read the comments from others and know of so many who tried so hard and think that is the problem, they are trying too hard! Then they go and adopt and while they go through all the legalities, they get pregnant! Your day will come and all of Milwaukee will have the largest baby shower ever in the city. I will plan to go there for it!
That was Connie from SJ, Puerto Rico.
Hang in There!
I went through the same exact type of miscarriage with my first pregnancy and know exactly how Elizabeth feels. On a more positive note I now have two beautiful healthy children. Don't give up! Thanks for sharing your story! I am sure you have helped some other women who are struggling with this know that they are not alone!
One day at a time....
We had the pleasure of meeting you last year at the opening of a health clinic. Our girls met you and loved your personality. You are already a natural with young children and I pray you will be blessed to have your own. You already hear and see that you are not alone. I hope you get some insight and answers and can move forward in the process. You will celebrate soon.... One day at a time! Prayers!!
You are strong!
I know exactly where you are coming from. My husband and I have struggled with unexplained infertility for the last 5 years. We have experienced one unexplained miscarriage (also at almost 9 weeks, and days after a beautiful ultrasound), two ectopic pregnancies and two chemical pregnancies. After five years, three doctors later, multiple shots, pills, ultrasounds, surgeries, tears, heart breaks we received the news. 12 weeks ago, one stuck in there :) You are absolutely right, this is taboo to talk about. I am glad you shared your experience. We need to make this less taboo in order to support families through the loss. We deal with tough times, imaginable to many. Where we dread mother's/father's day..and friends bombarding us with "when are you having a baby?!" I usually answer with my reality...and then of course they feel bad for me, which makes it worse. Feel empowered, but don't let this take over your life. It is easier said than done, I know. Much luck to you and your husband. This too shall pass.
please don't say "relax"
That is the absolute worse thing you can tell a family dealing with infertility!! We can't relax! Between appointments, taking your temperature, meds...etc...it really becomes a second job! So really, we can't relax..and yes, we know "it will come"!!
Educate yourself and don't give up (even though that is what they tell you to do so that it wil
After a very frustrating six years of trying I told the infertility specialist exactly what I wanted done: (artificial insemination with my husband's sperm which was treated with Percoll to increase the motility). The specialist was about to give up and recommend expensive in-vitro procedures and more gruesome tests on me. I wrote him a letter after doing my own research and it was all or nothing because we were going to give up if it didn't work. My suggestion worked the first time and I finally gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby girl! Good luck Elizabeth!!!
There is HOPE!
After 3 years of disappointment after disappointment - 3 miscarriages and 2 ectopic pregnancies, test after test, surgery, 7 rounds of IVF - some failed (5), some successful - 2 of the 7 tries - (#1 & #2 kids), and then a surprise miracle baby (#3) after all of that, I offer this.... The many years of heartache, the tears, the shots, the ultrasounds,the appointment after appointment, the ups/downs, the unbelievable amount of money...worth every moment! The wait was so hard, the road long, the fear of "not again" always in your mind just when things looked good, but along the way was also the opportunity to reach out to others that just started on their own, sometimes equally long, journey on the path of infertility and help them along the way, if even just a little, by giving them HOPE that things CAN work out. And, definitely be your own advocate ...research, ask, don't give in to "well that isn't how we do things" answers that some drs will give.
Thank you all so much for your kind words and for sharing your stories. It definitely makes me not feel so alone. This is a hard time for Aaron and I, but we are trying not to quit and hopefully we'll be blessed with our own baby one day. Your messages mean so much to me and I appreciate them more than you'll ever know! xoxoxo - Elizabeth
All things are possible with God
I'm sorry I missed this discussion on the radio, but my advice is to stay open. Try not to focus so much on getting pregnant or having a baby, but keep visualizing the end result - your and Aaron's FAMILY. It's almost like when you do, the details fall in to place. I married my husband when I was almost 40, and we went through some of that infertility stuff. It didn't take long for our doctor to recommend IVF because of my age. We did not want to take out a mortgage just to have a baby. We weren't in a position to do that. We started looking into adopting a child with special needs. (It didn't cost anything.) The process involves going through specific things you will or will not accept, i.e. certain health problems, disabilities, gender, age range, race, etc. It feels kind of strange to do that, and I wasn't sure if I really wanted to go that route, but I tried not to think about my feelings too much. It was like we were being led through the details. It was easy. It was like riding a wave. It's amazing to me how well we were matched to the little girl we were lucky enough to welcome into our home. We ended up adopting her on her 3rd birthday. She's now an active and healthy 10 year old. Clearly we were meant to be together. We are definitely her parents and she is definitely our daughter. We couldn't be happier. In fact, this Saturday we will be celebrating Gotcha Day, the day we brought her home in 2005. You CAN have a version of what you want. I know several people who either took a long time to conceive or who had several miscarriages, and then went on to have four kids, or a boy and a girl - exactly what they wanted. My sense is that you will have your own babies, too. All the best to you and your husband! ♥☺☼♪♫ ~Kathy D.
Stay positive, hon. Whatever route you end up on, your family will find its way together. Xoxo
After losing a baby at 40 weeks, you need to learn relax and not stress. It is the worst advice but I didn't get pregnant until after I was able to take time for myself. -Mom of 4 and Angel
Bieber's Roast Airs
It seems like the roast that would never end, but the Comedy Central roast of Justin Bieber finally aired last night.
The folks at ABC News provide a two-minute summary on this morning's "The Skinny."
Check it out for a clean breakdown of the show.
If you believe the clips, it looks like the Biebs had some of the best lines of the night.
Meet the New Daily Show Host
Comedy Central announced yesterday the replacement for Jon Stewart on The Daily Show.
Just as everyone expected, the new host is... Trevor Noah?
Um, sorry, who?
Trevor's relatively new to The Daily Show.
Heck, he's relatively new to the US, having arrived at both spots back in December - four months ago - from his native South Africa.
In fact, back then, he made his debut appearance on The Daily Show as a correspondent.
Now, suddenly, he's the new host. As others scramble to find out more about him, why not just sit back and watch that debut..
Oh No He Didn't...
Justin Bieber took the stage as a back-up singer with Ariana Grande in Miami over the weekend.
His job: help her with "Love Me Harder."
And he couldn't do it. He flubbed the lines, then gave up and started dancing on stage and greeting fans to cover for his failed memory.
He apologized repeatedly to Ariana on stage.. And he did so on Instagram afterwards as well.
Accepted or not, I'll bet it's the last time he's invited to be Ariana's back-up...
Had fun with u Ariana, even tho I forgot all the words haha
A photo posted by Justin Bieber (@justinbieber) on Mar 28, 2015 at 8:46pm PDT
The Beginning of The New World
Jay Z enlisted some top-level friends to help him announce his new streaming music service, Tidal.
Beyonce was there, of course, and Kanye. But so was Madonna, and Nicki Minaj, and Jason Aldean, and Chris Martin, and more.
Dozens of artists, in the room and on-line, to hear about and lend support to Jay Z's game changing idea.
His plan is to get consumers to pay for music they're used to streaming for free.
You laugh, but it worked for Netflix.
The man could really be on to something big here...
Sound of Music... Peter Pan... The Wiz?
NBC announced plans to produce another live musical right around Thanksgiving.
Two years ago, it was Sound of Music starring Carrie Underwood.
Last year, it was Peter Pan starring Alison Williams.
This year, it's The Wiz.
Right. The Wiz. The urban twist on the classic Wizard of Oz.
Debuted on Broadway in the mid-70s, Turned into a movie in 1978, starring Michael Jackson as the Scarecrow, and Richard Pryor as the Wiz.
Not exactly a classic.
But, it will be the third installment in NBC's franchise - for lack of a better term.
Already, suggestions are being made for the casting.
Beyonce as Glinda. Pharrell as the Tin Man.
Not seeing Kanye mentioned anywhere - but he'll trying to pick up an Emmy for it anyway...
Meanwhile, here's a sampling of the King of Pope as the Scarecrow.
Something Old Really Works
Here's a head-scratcher: some scientists in England have found a way to kill the hospital superbug known as MRSA.
Great news, you say. How did they do it?
Simple. They cooked up a compound from a recipe found in a book about 1000 years old.
The book is called Bald's Leecbook, and the treatment is for styes.
Take cropleek and garlic, of both equal quantities, pound them well together… take wine and bullocks gall, mix with the leek… let it stand nine days in the brass vessel…
The scientists followed the directions and when they tested it, found that it had a 90% success rate in killing the bacteria generally blamed for MRSA.
This could turn into something.
Up next: applying Game of Thrones strategies to current warfare.
Step 1: get a dragon...
Deer Season is Open
The folks at Disney have been busy turning cartoon characters into live-action characters.
We've had Maleficent, and most recently, Cinderella.
So why not take the same approach with Bambi?
Great idea, and played up perfectly by the folks at Saturday Night Live with a little help - okay, a lot of help - from Dwayne "The Rock" Johnston.
Check it out!
And This is Why I Don't Go on Rollercoasters...
Opening day for the Coney Island Cyclone, one of the world's most historic wooden rollercoasters, didn't go so well for the first riders of the season.
At the top of its first hill, just before the first drop, the coaster stopped dead in its tracks.
Riders were stranded, and had to be walked down by emergency personnel.
Like rollercoasters aren't already scary enough, now this happens?
But what do you want to bet that most of them will climb back aboard as soon as the ride's running again?
Wait a Minute, What?
Furious 7 - the seventh installment in the Fast & Furious franchise - is set to open up in theaters in a couple of weeks.
The hype for it has been huge.
Naturally, everyone thinks the "7" in the title refers to it being the "seventh" film.
Wrong. According to the director, James Wan, says he wanted to actually spell out the "seven" in the title, as an homage to Seven Samurai.
It's about seven warriors, I guess, and not about counting how many films there've been.
Behind the Times?
President Obama sat down last week to talk with David Simon, the creator of The Wire, the critically-acclaimed TV show.
The idea was to discuss what Simon observed about crime in the inner city that drove him to create the show.
The guy's a former cop, so it's probably a valuable chat.
But those observations are over a dozen years old. The Wire ran between 2002 and 2008.
Relevant? Or just an opportunity for the First Fan to talk to the guy who created one of his favorite shows?
What do you think?