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My Coming Out Story

I received an email from one of our listeners:
  • Hey Kidd! I'm 17 years old and I'm messaging you to see if you could give me some advice. I listen to your show every weekday morning and I hope to hear something from you. I'm gay, and I'm struggling with getting the confidence to tell my parents. I was wondering if you could share your story, or give some advice on what to do. Thanks Kidd!!!


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UPDATE: Eric Calls In
Hear how things went when Eric told his parents he was gay.


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11/06/2013 9:44AM
My Coming Out Story
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11/06/2013 9:13PM
Like I have said before......
I am SO proud of you! Harry Sutton......
11/06/2013 10:22PM
coming out story
Thank you for sharing. This is like my story with my mom. This is is so inspirational.
11/06/2013 11:41PM
Took a marriage and three kids....
I guess this message is for the 17 year old and Kidd..... For the 17 year old. Please know there is a HUGE support system out here for you. More than you can imagine. Reach out and you will be amazed. Kidd... I hope you see and know how much of an impact you are making. I also messaged you when I first came out and to know there is a public figure that has your back was incredible to me. Thank you for being there for this guy know that YOU will always be part of his story!!!!! Much love to you both!!!
11/07/2013 7:40PM
I came out to my parents when I was in my 40's
The problem of my family not knowing who I really was had festered in me to the point that I was having suicidal thoughts. I knew I had to do it, and my friends kept telling me your mom always knew. I decided to break the news. It hit my Mom like a brick wall, she cried, my super religious Baptist Dad said, "You're my son, I still love you," and my four siblings I could tell just needed some time to process this announcement. I gave them time and didn't dwell on it nor did I bring it up. Dad has since died, Mom loves me more than ever, always wanting to know who else she might know that is gay, and my siblings have no issues whatsoever. This heavy boulder is no longer on my shoulder and I and my family are as happy as any family.
11/07/2013 8:06PM
It will work out, you can do this
My son now 18 told us when he was 16 yrs old. I his mother always knew his father was crushed. We have worked through 2 yrs just being open to each other's discussion. His father has now changed his views based on wanting our son "happy" and able to live a full life. We've told him what ever you choose for yourself be positive, thankful for the goodness you have in your life. We all have talent in many different areas. Find what makes you happy. YOU deserve happiness!
11/07/2013 11:05PM
Glad you shared your struggle
We all have tendencies toward what is wrong, we are born sinners. Please realize that you may have a desire for this sinful deed but you do have a choice whether to act on your inclinations. The act of homosexuality is a sin. You have a choice to commit the act just as you have a choice to lie, steal, cheat, kill, etc. WE all struggle with evil tendencies but they can be defeated. What you do is a choice. Its not like that song that says "I can't change, even if I try," That song is wrong and defeatist! You can change, if you try, if you want to. Homosexuality is a choice. Not a good one. Yes, God is Love. Yes, God hates sin. Homosexuality is a sin. You can win. Make the right choice.
11/08/2013 4:43AM
To: "Glad you shared your struggle"
Being homosexual is not a "choice" any more than being heterosexual is. Gay men don't one day choose to be attracted to other men; straight women don't choose to be attracted to men. Lesbians don't choose to be attracted to other women; straight men don't choose to be attracted to women. Not everyone believes in the Bible; there are also many, many interpretations of scripture, including more loving and embracing views than yours (which are psychologically and physiologically harmful). This isn't about religion; it's about human biology. Kudos to Kidd. The young man he helped wouldn't be struggling if people like you, "Glad you shared," weren't demonizing gay people and suggesting it's all a choice to begin with.
11/08/2013 9:39AM
Great Advice
Kidd, you gave some great advice to the kid, many thanks. I may have been a bit more cautious, not knowing the situation. I think if a young man or woman still living at home wants to come out to their parents, if there is any chance they may be kicked out or subjected to bad treatment, there needs to be an exit plan in place. I read too many stories of kids on the streets because they came out, or were outed, and have no place to go. Frankly, if there is no place to go, I would recommend not coming out until there is a plan in place. And to the holy roller who commented above, get over yourself. You judging other people is a sin, if there is such a thing.
11/11/2013 10:26AM
Glad you shared your struggle
People have been led to believe that homosexuality is not a choice. As I said the inclination may be there but the act itself is a choice! Otherwise your saying I, being heterosexual, have no choice but to have sex with a woman. That is not true. The act is a choice. And I don't hate or demonize anyone. I have friends who are gay but they know what I believe and we agree to disagree. Your view says in the area of sexuality people have no choice in who or what they will have sex with. And as far as scripture goes, yes there are many interpretations, but if you read a translation you will find all references to homosexuality call it sin. Sorry, that's not what I think but what God says.
11/12/2013 10:52AM
Father of a Gay son
As the father of a gay son, I can tell you that it is as difficult for your parents to hear as it is for you to tell them. I had a very hard time accepting the fact and probably said some things that made it even harder for my son. In the end, though, my love for him is what really matters and his happiness is what is most important to me. Just bear in mind that it is a huge mental adjustment for your parents to make and it may take some timee.
11/21/2013 1:11PM
To: "Glad You Shared Your Stuggle"
Both of your comments leave me feeling troublesome. The fact that you can't understand that the way one feels both emotionally and physically, calling ti a "Choice". so here is a situation. You say that even if you are attracted to the same sex, you "Choose" to sleep with them... and that that in its self is a SIN.. But had they decided to go against those feelings and do what the church or scripture deems "The Right Thing To Do"... no say your daughter/son marry's someone that has made this choice to be untrue to themselves and their partner. They have Chosen to be dishonest. LYING is also a SIN. I honestly think you should keep your twisted bible thumping opinions to yourself because it is twisted religious people like your self that stand at the gates and get asked that old time question... is there a GOD. sure there is something of a higher power... but its not a bigot like yourself. your disgusting and you should really take a look at a bible and read it in depth. its a story. and most of it is a lie...
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