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Do you know someone who has struggled to have a baby? Elizabeth Kay reveals the journey she and her husband are currently on to have a baby.


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08/14/2013 7:05PM
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08/14/2013 7:44PM
Stay strong and positive!
My husband and I tried to have a baby for over six years. We then chose to adopt our beautiful daughter and two months later we were shocked to find out I was pregnant! We were then blessed with our wonderful son! Two children, just over a year apart in age! You just never know what life will bring you!
08/14/2013 7:46PM
Elizabeth
You'd be surprised how common it is. Good luck and stay positive!
08/14/2013 7:53PM
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Elizabeth - There is always a way! I went through menopause at the age of 30 and I tried to have a baby when i was 35. With shots and a great Dr. (Women's Health Care Waukesh! Wi) I got pregnant. I was able to produce two eggs and gave birth to abeautiful girl Erin on March 17, 1995. Prays to both of you!
08/14/2013 8:03PM
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I really am pulling for you to have a baby. it will happen. :)
08/14/2013 8:06PM
Stay Positive & Good Luck!
I can totally relate to this. My husband and I tried for six years. I wanted nothing more than to be a mom. We told certain family members of our struggle only after we had a miscarriage. It was very difficult watching friends and family having babies during those years. It was very stressful with all the hormones I was on and all the money we were spending and not seeing any results. I could not believe that this was happening to us. However, after many fertility treatments and seeing an out of state specialist, we were blessed with twins! I wish you and your husband nothing but good luck. Prayers sent your way.
08/14/2013 8:10PM
Pulling for you!
You can't give up! I tried for a year and a half for my second child, and had three miscarriages. I went through every test imaginable and spent a lot of time in clinics, and now we're 25 weeks pregnant with our son! I was just about to give up...just proves that time will tell.
08/14/2013 8:23PM
You are not crazy!
I appreciate your comment of feeling like less of a women. This journey will be incredibly difficult and most around you will not understand it. We lost 6 babies two of those were tubals. My biggest advise to you is try not to get bitter. It was so hard watching everyone have babies, complain about their babies, wish they were you with no babies and so forth. We adopted three children (not all at the same time). Just know that because that is what you want (to have a child) in the end it will happen when it is suppose to. Keep a journals or make a scrapbook because in the end when you are holding that baby you will (believe it or not) not remember all this turmoil. Good luck.
08/14/2013 8:44PM
Elizabeth
Thank you for talking about this and your struggle! So many of us don't feel unable to discuss the topic of infertility. My husband and I tried for 6 years to have a baby. We suffered 2 miscarriages. When we finally figured out why I was miscarrying we got pregnant again only to give birth to a premature stillborn baby boy from a different complication. There is hope! Just over 2 weeks ago we brought home our miracle baby boy. He is perfect and 100% healthy. God has completed our miracle! Don't give up!
08/14/2013 9:12PM
Let it happen when it ismeant to
Elizabeth, my heart is with you as will be my prayers. However, do not try so hard, relax and enjoy the moment and when you lease expected, you will get pregnant. Put it in God's hands and let it be His gift as every child is! Only then will you will be able to conceive. I read the comments from others and know of so many who tried so hard and think that is the problem, they are trying too hard! Then they go and adopt and while they go through all the legalities, they get pregnant! Your day will come and all of Milwaukee will have the largest baby shower ever in the city. I will plan to go there for it!
08/14/2013 9:15PM
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That was Connie from SJ, Puerto Rico.
08/14/2013 10:01PM
Hang in There!
I went through the same exact type of miscarriage with my first pregnancy and know exactly how Elizabeth feels. On a more positive note I now have two beautiful healthy children. Don't give up! Thanks for sharing your story! I am sure you have helped some other women who are struggling with this know that they are not alone!
08/15/2013 12:41AM
One day at a time....
We had the pleasure of meeting you last year at the opening of a health clinic. Our girls met you and loved your personality. You are already a natural with young children and I pray you will be blessed to have your own. You already hear and see that you are not alone. I hope you get some insight and answers and can move forward in the process. You will celebrate soon.... One day at a time! Prayers!!
08/15/2013 8:19AM
You are strong!
I know exactly where you are coming from. My husband and I have struggled with unexplained infertility for the last 5 years. We have experienced one unexplained miscarriage (also at almost 9 weeks, and days after a beautiful ultrasound), two ectopic pregnancies and two chemical pregnancies. After five years, three doctors later, multiple shots, pills, ultrasounds, surgeries, tears, heart breaks we received the news. 12 weeks ago, one stuck in there :) You are absolutely right, this is taboo to talk about. I am glad you shared your experience. We need to make this less taboo in order to support families through the loss. We deal with tough times, imaginable to many. Where we dread mother's/father's day..and friends bombarding us with "when are you having a baby?!" I usually answer with my reality...and then of course they feel bad for me, which makes it worse. Feel empowered, but don't let this take over your life. It is easier said than done, I know. Much luck to you and your husband. This too shall pass.
08/15/2013 8:23AM
please don't say "relax"
That is the absolute worse thing you can tell a family dealing with infertility!! We can't relax! Between appointments, taking your temperature, meds...etc...it really becomes a second job! So really, we can't relax..and yes, we know "it will come"!!
08/15/2013 11:28AM
Educate yourself and don't give up (even though that is what they tell you to do so that it wil
After a very frustrating six years of trying I told the infertility specialist exactly what I wanted done: (artificial insemination with my husband's sperm which was treated with Percoll to increase the motility). The specialist was about to give up and recommend expensive in-vitro procedures and more gruesome tests on me. I wrote him a letter after doing my own research and it was all or nothing because we were going to give up if it didn't work. My suggestion worked the first time and I finally gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby girl! Good luck Elizabeth!!!
08/15/2013 11:39AM
There is HOPE!
After 3 years of disappointment after disappointment - 3 miscarriages and 2 ectopic pregnancies, test after test, surgery, 7 rounds of IVF - some failed (5), some successful - 2 of the 7 tries - (#1 & #2 kids), and then a surprise miracle baby (#3) after all of that, I offer this.... The many years of heartache, the tears, the shots, the ultrasounds,the appointment after appointment, the ups/downs, the unbelievable amount of money...worth every moment! The wait was so hard, the road long, the fear of "not again" always in your mind just when things looked good, but along the way was also the opportunity to reach out to others that just started on their own, sometimes equally long, journey on the path of infertility and help them along the way, if even just a little, by giving them HOPE that things CAN work out. And, definitely be your own advocate ...research, ask, don't give in to "well that isn't how we do things" answers that some drs will give.
08/15/2013 2:55PM
Thank you
Thank you all so much for your kind words and for sharing your stories. It definitely makes me not feel so alone. This is a hard time for Aaron and I, but we are trying not to quit and hopefully we'll be blessed with our own baby one day. Your messages mean so much to me and I appreciate them more than you'll ever know! xoxoxo - Elizabeth
08/15/2013 7:52PM
All things are possible with God
I'm sorry I missed this discussion on the radio, but my advice is to stay open. Try not to focus so much on getting pregnant or having a baby, but keep visualizing the end result - your and Aaron's FAMILY. It's almost like when you do, the details fall in to place. I married my husband when I was almost 40, and we went through some of that infertility stuff. It didn't take long for our doctor to recommend IVF because of my age. We did not want to take out a mortgage just to have a baby. We weren't in a position to do that. We started looking into adopting a child with special needs. (It didn't cost anything.) The process involves going through specific things you will or will not accept, i.e. certain health problems, disabilities, gender, age range, race, etc. It feels kind of strange to do that, and I wasn't sure if I really wanted to go that route, but I tried not to think about my feelings too much. It was like we were being led through the details. It was easy. It was like riding a wave. It's amazing to me how well we were matched to the little girl we were lucky enough to welcome into our home. We ended up adopting her on her 3rd birthday. She's now an active and healthy 10 year old. Clearly we were meant to be together. We are definitely her parents and she is definitely our daughter. We couldn't be happier. In fact, this Saturday we will be celebrating Gotcha Day, the day we brought her home in 2005. You CAN have a version of what you want. I know several people who either took a long time to conceive or who had several miscarriages, and then went on to have four kids, or a boy and a girl - exactly what they wanted. My sense is that you will have your own babies, too. All the best to you and your husband! ♥☺☼♪♫ ~Kathy D.
08/16/2013 7:53PM
Love you!!
Stay positive, hon. Whatever route you end up on, your family will find its way together. Xoxo -cupcake sandy
09/05/2013 5:34PM
Stay Strong
After losing a baby at 40 weeks, you need to learn relax and not stress. It is the worst advice but I didn't get pregnant until after I was able to take time for myself. -Mom of 4 and Angel
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