5 Mistakes Women Make In Love

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5 mistakes women make in love by Kidd & Elizabeth in the Morning , posted Oct 26 2011 12:28PM

Are you guilty of these mistakes? 1. YOU DO ALL THE WORK. If you take over planning everything for your man, whether it's scheduling all your dates, choosing his outfits, or even just deciding what you guys watch on TV, you've got to chill out a little. Organizing his life doesn't mean you'll be indispensable, and actually, it'll probably cause you to resent each other in the long run. 2. YOU'RE HIS LIFE COACH, MOTHER, OR THERAPIST. Women are especially vulnerable to falling for needy men. But don't confuse being "needed" with being "loved." 3. YOU EXPECT HIM TO READ YOUR MIND. Even the smartest women have that fantasy that if the connection is really special, a guy should "just know" what you need and what you're feeling. But expecting someone to read your mind isn't fair. In healthy relationships, people say what they want. But if you do tell him what you want, and he continually falls short of satisfying your needs, then it might be a compatibility issue. 4. YOU LOSE YOUR IDENTITY. It's great when a guy opens up your world and introduces you to new things, but if you've ditched your own hobbies and friends as a result, that's a problem. 5. YOU PUSH FOR CLOSENESS. Forcing intimacy on a guy is just about the fastest way to get him to tell you he needs some space. Trying to rush intimacy never works, and will only make your guy feel smothered. From Happen Magazine Tags : Social : dating, love, relationships Back To Blog
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03/24/2010 4:55AM

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I should know by now that Kidd is very opinionated and has a holier than thou attitude. He has gone over the edge this time. His opinion is not always correct, and he needs to think before he speaks. In discussing Rosie's new show, he put an arrow thru the hearts of many families with autistic children. As a grandmother of an adorable 3 yr old with autism, I can't believe the ignorance Kidd has shown. To assume people would rather listen to stories about actors and their questionable lifestyles, rather than something that really matters, is just wrong. There are now 1 in 150 kids that have autism and the number is growing rapidly. We NEED people like Rosie to talk about this, so something will be done. Her concern for people in all sorts of trouble should be an inspiration to everyone. What we need are more people like her, that are concerned with children and family issues, and less egotistical airheads like Kidd. His statement that the subject is boring and people don't want to hear about it is a slap in the face to all the families suffering thru this epidemic. Someone needs to pay attention and solve this problem. It must be nice to be so perfect that you have no compassion for others. I wonder what his attitude would be if one of his nephews was diagnosed. You know, many kids aren't diagnosed ti age 5 or 6 - with more awareness brought on by people like Rosie, maybe these kids could get help when they are young, when they have the most potential to recover from this horrible syndrome.

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What an amazing weekend! First of all, a very big THANK YOU to everyone who came out to Grafton and Mukwonago and waited in line amid cold, windy and rainy conditions for those Wisconsin Dells Season Opener Cards. For me, it is a chance to meet / hang out with YOU the listener and give you goodies! Second, got this letter from our 99.1 The Mix Contact Us forum, from the Dawson family of Port Washington and was truly surprised that my "simple gesture" warranted the following... Question: Your Name: Answer: Michelle Question: Your City: Answer: Port Washington Comments: Yesterday I took my parents to Grafton to wait for season opener cards. It was quite a cold morning. We arrived at 10 because in the past there have been huge lines. My mother is recovering from a recent open-heart surgery. She is a very petite older woman. Van McNeil was interacting with people people in line and I asked him if it would be possible for my mom to going to the bank to warm up. He unexpectedly took my mom's hand and escorted her into the building. He was so kind to her and gave her a hug. He made sure she was warm and dry and took very good care of her. My mom and dad are thrilled to be going to the Dells. Unknown to Van my dad just got out of The hospital last Friday after 4 1/2 weeks of being in. It's been a very rough couple of months for my parents and their health. My mother was just beaming about how nice Van was. I wanted to thank you for the season opener cards which will allow my parents and my family to enjoy a vacation in Wisconsin this summer, and send a special thank you to Van for being so wonderful to my parents. You're welcome and THANK YOU Michelle! Just doing what I do because that's how my mama raised me! Enjoy the Dells! -Van #everylistenermatters

Perennial Garden Renovations
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Preserving the Asparagus Harvest
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Clematis Stem Wilt
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